目录

正文

此书的写作过程与初衷

How This Book Was Written – and Why

9点建议——如何从本书中获取最大收益

Nine Suggestions on How to Get the Most out of This Book

一. 如欲采蜜，勿蹴蜂房

1. If You Want to Gather Honey, Don’t Kick over the Beehive（1）

1. If You Want to Gather Honey, Don’t Kick over the Beehive（2）

二． 与人相处的最大秘诀

2. The Big Secret of Dealing with People（1）

2. The Big Secret of Dealing with People（2）

三. 掌握了这门技巧就能掌握世界。如果你不懂这门技巧将会孤独而终。

3. “He Who can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who cannot Walks a Lonely Way”（1）

3. “He Who can Do This Has the Whole World with Him. He Who cannot Walks a Lonely Way”（2）

小结

IN A NUTSHELL

一. 能使你处处受欢迎的做法

1. Do This and You’ll Be Welcome anywhere（1）

1. Do This and You’ll Be Welcome anywhere（2）

二．给人留下好的第一印象的捷径

2. A Simple Way to Make a Good First Impression

三．如果你不这样做，你是自找麻烦

3. If You Don’t Do This, You are Headed for Trouble

四. 成为健谈者的一个简便方法

4. An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist

五. 如何引发别人的兴趣

5. How to Interest People

六. 如何使人很快喜欢你

6. How to Make People Like You Instantly（1）

6. How to Make People Like You Instantly（2）

小结

IN A NUTSHELL

一. 你不可能在争辩中获胜

1. You can’t Win an Argument

二. 必然招致敌人的方式，以及如何避免四处树敌

2. A Sure Way of Making Enemies – and How to Avoid It（1）

2. A Sure Way of Making Enemies – and How to Avoid It（2）

三. 勇于承认自己的错误

3. If You’re Wrong, Admit It

四. 从友善开始

4. A Drop of Honey

五. 苏格拉底的秘诀

5. The Secret of Socrates

六. 处理抱怨的万全之策

6. The Safety Valve in Handling Complaints

七. 如何赢得他人的合作

7. How to Get Cooperation

八. 一个为你创造奇迹的公式

8. A Formula that Will Work Wonders for You

九. 每个人都需要的东西

9. What Everybody Wants

十. 每个人都喜欢的诉求

10. An Appeal that Everybody Likes

十一. 电影、电视都那么干，你何不试试呢？

11. The Movies Do It. TV Does It. Why Don’t You Do It?

十二. 当你无计可施时，不妨试试这个

12. When Nothing Else Works, Try This

小结

IN A NUTSHELL

一. 如果你一定要批评，请从这里开始

1. If You Must Find Fault, This Is the Way to Begin

二. 如何批评才不致招怨

2. How to Criticize – and Not be Hated for It

三. 先谈你自己的错误

3. Talk about Your Own Mistakes First

四. 没有人喜欢接受命令

4. No One Likes to Take Orders

五. 顾全对方的面子

5. Let the Other Person Save Face

六. 如何激励人们成功

6. How to Spur People on to Success

七. 给人一个好名声

7. Give a Dog a Good Name

八. 使错误看起来容易改正

8. Make the Fault Seem Easy to Correct

九. 使人们乐意做你建议的事

9. Making People Glad to Do What You Want

小结

IN A NUTSHELL

创造奇迹的信件

Letters That Produced Miraculous Results

一. 不要自掘婚姻的坟墓

1. How to Dig Your Marital Grave in the Quickest Possible Way

二. 爱他，就给他自由

2 . Love and Let Live

三. 不要做无谓的批评

3. Do This and You’ll be Looking up the Time-Tables to Reno

四. 使每个人都快乐的方法

4. A Quick Way to Make Everybody Happy

五. 对女人最有意义的事

5. They Mean So Much to a Woman

六． 如果你想快乐，请不要忽略了这些

6. If You Want to Be Happy, Don’t Neglect This One

七． 不要做一个“婚姻的文盲”

7. Don’t Be a “Marriage Illiterate”

小结

In a Nutshell

本书是怎么写成的，为什么写作本书

How This Book Was Written – and Why

一. 在“今日舱”中生活

1. Live in “Day-tight Compartments”（1）

1. Live in “Day-tight Compartments”（2）

二. 让你抛开烦恼的“万能公式”

2. A Magic Formula for Solving Worry Situations

三. 忧虑的后果

3. What Worry May Do to You（1）

3. What Worry May Do to You（2）

第一卷 小结

IN A NUTSHELL

一. 如何分析和解决焦虑问题

1. How to Analyse and Solve Worry Problems

二. 如何消除工作上50%的焦虑

2. How to Eliminate Fifty Per Cent of Your Business Worries

第二卷 小结

IN A NUTSHELL

一. 怎样排除你内心的忧虑

1. How to Crowd Worry out of Your Mind

二. 不因琐事而垂头丧气

2. Don’t Let the Beetles Get You Down

三. 用概率战胜忧虑

3. A Law That Will Outlaw Many of Your Worries

四. 要会处理无法避免的事实

4. Co-operate with the Inevitable（1）

4. Co-operate with the Inevitable（2）

五. 给忧虑一个“底线”

5. Put a “ Stop-Loss” Order on Your Worries

六. 不要去担心已经发生过的事情

6. Don’t Try to Saw Sawdust

第三卷 小结

IN A NUTSHELL

一. 可以改变你人生的8个字

1. Eight Words that Can Transform Your Life（1）

1. Eight Words that Can Transform Your Life（2）

二. 不要想着报复别人

2. The High Cost of Getting Even

三. 乐善好施，不求回报

3. If You Do This, You Will Never Worry about Ingratitude

四. 珍惜已经得到的恩惠

4 Would You Take a Million Dollars for What You Have?

五. 找回自我，保持本色

5. Find Yourself and Be Yourself: Remember There Is No One Else on Earth Like You

六. 如果手里仅存柠檬，就做杯柠檬汁

6. If You Have a Lemon, Make a Lemonade

七. 如何在14天里摆脱沮丧

7. How to Cure Depression in Fourteen Days（1）

7. How to Cure Depression in Fourteen Days（2）

小结

In A Nutshell

一. 欣然接受成为众矢之的

1. Remember That No One Ever Kicks a Dead Dog

二. 这样做，任何非难都伤害不了你

2. Do This – and Criticism can’t Hurt You

三. 我的“蠢事记录簿”

3. Fool Things I Have Done

小结

In A Nutshell

一. 如何每天多清醒一小时

1. How to Add One Hour a Day to Your Waking Life

二. 什么使你疲劳，怎样消除疲劳

2. What Makes You Tired – and What You Can Do About It

三. 如何防止疲劳，永葆青春

3. How to Avoid Fatigue – and Keep Looking Young

四. 预防疲劳和忧虑的4种良好工作习惯

4. Four Good Working Habits That Will Help Prevent Fatigue and Worry

五. 如何驱逐烦闷

5. How to Banish the Boredom that Produces Fatigue, Worry, and Resentment

六. 如何远离失眠的困扰

6. How to Keep from Worrying about Insomnia

第六卷 小结

IN A NUTSHELL

一. 六大麻烦一起降临

1. Six Major Troubles Hit Me All at Once

二. 我能够迅速变得乐观起来

2. I Can Turn Myself into a Shouting Optimist within an Hour

三. 我是如何克服自卑心理的

3. How I Got Rid of an Inferiority Complex

四. 我曾住在安拉的花园里

4. I Lived in The Garden of Allah

五. 我所采用的驱除烦恼的5种方法

5. Five Methods I Have Used to Banish Worry

六. 熬过昨天，就不惧今天

6. I Stood Yesterday. I Can Stand Today

七. 我并不曾期望能活到天明

7. I Did Not Expect to Live to See the Dawn

八. 去健身房练拳击或者在户外健步走

8. I Go to the Gym to Punch the Bag or Take a Hike Outdoors

九. 我曾经是“弗吉尼亚烦恼大王”

9. I Was “The Worrying Wreck From Virginia Tech.”

十. 有一句话支撑我走下去

10. I Have Lived by this Sentence

十一. 我跌到谷底并存活下来

11. I Hit Bottom and Survived

十二. 我曾狠狠嘲笑自己

12. I Used to Be One of the World’s Biggest Jackasses

十三. 我总是保证自己的补给线畅通

13. I Have Always Tried to Keep My Line of Supplies Open

十四. 我听到来自印度的声音

14. I Heard a Voice in India

十五. 当警长来到我家门前

15. When the Sheriff Came in My Front Door

十六. 忧虑曾是我最强悍的对手

16. The Toughest Opponent I Ever Fought Was Worry

十七. 祈祷自己不被送进孤儿院

17. I Prayed to God to Keep Me out of an Orphan’s Home

十八. 不要自找麻烦

18. My Stomach Was Twisting Like a Kansas Whirlwind

十九. 不再烦恼的方法如此简单

19. I Learned to Stop Worrying by Watching My Wife Wash Dishes

二十. 找到忧虑的症结

20. I Found the Answer

二十一. 时间可以帮你解决很多问题

21. Time Solves a Lot of Things

二十二. 作最坏的打算

22. I Was Warned Not to Try to Speak or to Move Even a Finger

二十三. 要拿得起放得下

23. I Am a Great Dismisser

二十四. 继续忧虑的后果很严重

24. If I Had Not Stopped Worrying, I Would Have Been in My Grave Long Ago

二十五. 每次只处理好一件事足矣

25. One At A Time Gentleman, One At A Time

二十六. 寻找人生的那一扇门

26. I Now Look for the Green Light

二十七. 洛克菲勒的快乐法则

27. How John D. Rockefeller Lived on Borrowed Time for 45 Years

二十八. 不懂得让自己放松下来无异于慢性自杀

28. I Was Committing Slow Suicide Because I Didn’t Know How to Relax

二十九. 奇迹真的就发生在我身上

29. A Real Miracle Happened to Me

三十. 它给了我新的生活

30. I Was So Worried I Didn’t Eat a Bite of Solid Food for 18 Days